Boys and Girls in Basketball

If you coach basketball and have been doing it for any length of time, you know there is a huge difference between coaching boys and coaching girls.

First, boys are just physical monsters. Girls start out with the physical advantage, at an early age, but that seriously starts to change around 12 or 13 years old. That’s when the old testosterone kicks in and boys take off. Well, those are the physical difference, but what I was really referring to are the mental/personality differences.

Now when it comes to brainpower, both can be very intelligent or just plain dumb. Neither one seem to have the market cornered in either those areas. I have seen both do some really stupid things in their lives. After that though, the differences become apparent.

Guys for the most part know everything. I hope you noticed my tongue firmly planted in cheek. Seriously. Ask 10 guys about some fact and they will all tell you they know it. Even if one didn’t, he will lie and say he did just to fit in. Can’t really blame him as the guys will probably mock him for not knowing. Now, ask a group of girls something, and you will see the difference. If most know the answer to the question, they will pretend they don’t just to make the girl who doesn’t know not feel Of course I am speaking in generalities, but it’s pretty close to the actual way it is.

Guys also have these huge egos you have to deal with. For the most part, you have to tear them down and then build them back up. With girls, it’s just the opposite. Self esteem is a huge problem. You start from the very first meeting building up your female players and that doesn’t stop.

Guys will deal with conflict differently than girls. If guys aren’t getting along, someone gets a hit in the face and 10 minutes later they are all buddies..women on the other hand will stew in it. I know what the problem is when there is a guy problem on the team when there is a girl problem, I have to go do a little digging to get the story. Also, with girls, they will take sides. You can see the team split into two camps, to support the one they think is right.

Now, after all this, it would seem like I prefer to coach guys. Not true. For all their drama and insecurities, I would take coaching girls basketball any day of the week. They are just sponges when it comes to learning and for me it’s all about the teaching.